the next time something really shitty
or scary
or mean
or just downright yuk
happens to you
can you please close your eyes (or if you are in a meeting and can't be looking like you are completely zoning out then mentally close your eyes)
and imagine you have your arms around yourself and hear a voice (it could be your own voice or your beloved grandmother's voice or even mine - coz i'd say it if i was right there- it would have to have a funny kiwi accent though)saying
"it is alright darling, you are ok, this will be over soon, you are ok .."
it is guaranteed to make you feel better